Dear NamesAreOverrated:

I re-read your first thread as well as your latest response here. Your parents are “extremely erratic and impulsive”. Having grown up with parents who are that, no wonder you and your brother suffer from anxiety and are struggling, individually.

Your parents are not the authority over right-and-wrong. They are not qualified to be the ones you confess t, open up to with secrets. Being “extremely erratic and impulsive” means they are not a place for anyone to turn to seeking resolution of any distress.

There is no solution or resolution possible to achieve by turning to your parents. And you know it, you stated it yourself, in other words. The urge to “come forward” to them is probably similar to your other OCD urges. Those urges urge you to do things that in reality, you know will not bring you any positive results.

Your anxiety, OCD urges, this is what you will have to heal from and manage best you can without turning to your parents.

anita