Dear AprilAngel:

No solution can be perfect or even close. Got to choose the best in what is available to you. You have a responsibility to your four children. Their well-being, their best interest, should be the highest priority by far.

But notice this: the well being of a child’s mother is the best interest of a child. It damages children to observe their mother unwell, distressed, anxious, depressed and so on.

Because the loyalty of your partner is with his parents who disapprove of you and of your children, you don’t owe him your loyalty. It will be okay, I believe, for you to no longer live with him. If there are arguments in the home, it is better that the two of you do not live together.

anita