Dear Neha:

You wrote: “isn’t sacrifice or letting her daughter have her things something all mothers do naturally?”- no, it is not. Clearly your mother doesn’t. Neither did my mother.

What is natural is that a daughter loves her mother unconditionally and will do anything and everything to please her mother (some give up after a whole lot of trying).

Unfortunately it is not natural for a mother to want to please her daughter and many don’t attempt to. Many mothers will try to please … their own mothers, but not their daughters (or sons).

Many mothers (and fathers) will try to please neighbors and strangers, but not their children.

Many mothers misuse their power as mothers and take advantage of their children and adult children. It is simply easy to do so, because the child and adult child is eager to please, giving wanting only love in return.

anita