Thank you Jennifer, I just realized from your post about the “taking things too personally part” which I am applying to my mom as well, while I am dealing with it overall never thought of it until you mentioned.

I agree the more I see it lacking the more I would find those signs and want to chase them.

For the piece of clarification: its about the control and right on my earnings, not that she charges rent but a lot of demands and expectations when she visits me, I fulfill them to an extent that I am broke for that amount of time.