Hi Anita, thank-you for your reply. He was angry and passive aggressive because he resented me for spending money on things when we could have been using it for experiences and other things for our future. He did not want to talk to me about it because he liked the fact that I got a small bit of happiness from buying things during a difficult time in my life, although he obviously was not completely happy with the situation, hence the anger and passive aggressive behaviour. He explained this to me last night, and he has never told me that before. I just thought he hated me during that time.

I agree that perhaps it was being with me that brought out the worst in him. I was very flawed and unhappy due to events in my life, and I tried to make him happy but I obviously did not understand what was really bothering him as we did not communicate well.

I am not sure whether it will be a win-win. There were many aspects of our relationship that were very happy, and I feel that our biggest problem was not communicating with each other. I would have been happy to talk about anything, but he was the kind of person to bottle things up and get angry when I tried to touch on difficult subjects.