Dear Faye:

I can understand wanting to move out from a chaotic home where your parents fight a lot. Maybe in comparison living with your boyfriend will be better. Better yet would be a third option, moving out, but not with your boyfriend.

Regarding evaluating him, notice this: when he was on a trip and texted you every day that he missed you, you found out that he told his ex friend-like that he didn’t miss you.

In your last two lines you wrote that he told you that he wants to be with you every second of the day.

Will he be sharing something very different with someone else, like he did during that trip…?

You don’t trust him based on some evidence you found. He also expressed lack of respect to you and to others.

Did you talk with him about how living together will be like, any planning?

anita