Dear Vera:

I understand that you are anxious. Best thing you can do is to not express your anxiety by fighting with him. If you put the pressure on him to resolve your anxiety, to calm you, to tell you it will be okay, etc., you will be hurting him and you.

You may feel better if he says … the right thing to you at any one time, but long term, dumping one’s anxiety on another drains that person.

He expressed to you his honest feelings about physical distance, didn’t he? Accept and respect his feelings, do not try to change them (not in your power).

I think that sharing with him that you are anxious is okay, in  a responsible way, that is, not going on and on about it and not expecting him to make the anxiety go away (not in his power).

I hope you feel better soon. Post again any time you’d like.

anita