Dear Stuart:

We all make mistakes. We all do, every single day.

You expressed in your original post that you were afraid in the relationship with her, afraid that she will throw you out again as she did that several times. It is impossible to have a healthy, loving relationship when afraid of your partner.

When you “became withdrawn and ..couldn’t approach her”, that was not a mistake, it was a natural behavior of someone who is afraid. Nobody tends to open up and approach perceived danger.

I hope your counseling is of quality, that you will learn there and figure out how to increase your chances of a healthy, loving relationship in the future. Do post here anytime with your thoughts and feelings. And I do hope you feel better soon.

anita