Dear Stuart:

In your relationship then, you paid attention closely to how she felt. When she seemed unhappy, you were distressed and tried to make her feel better. On the other hand, she didn’t pay much attention to how you felt, didn’t mind it when you were unhappy and didn’t try to make you feel better?

Again: she never tried to make you feel better, or did she, sometimes?

In your relationship you didn’t voice your needs and wants directly… never or did you, sometimes? Did she voice her needs and wants directly? If she did, how did she (can you give an example)?

– I ask these questions because your answers may help me understand better and … maybe they will help you understand better as well.

anita