Hi Anita,

I agree with most of what you’re saying. I just believe that if someone asks you to meet them half way (get them a card because that’s what they like) & you do meet them half way, surely they should meet you half way too? To be so sure of something that you pretty much ask someone to change to be the way you want, but not bother yourself? I think it’s a little poor. If a partner done that it would seen as narcissistic or controlling, so how come it’s ok for a friend to do? I just feel like I go out of my way alot & not get a lot back. As I said it’s always me texting, never the other way round, then it’s “you haven’t come round for months”.

Nextsteps I think you’re right.

I do try to allow that she is her & who & what she does & I am me & I know I cannot control her or anyone for that matter, but I’ve made quite a few changes to ensure her happiness. I just feel like when I make plans I’m not “put on the calendar” & when another event comes along she says yes & always lets me down, regardless of the amount of notice I’ve given … Why can’t she cancel the second event, the one she made after ours? Strange