Dear Anita,

What a delight to read this first thing in the morning.  In fact, this is just what I needed.

Yes, it is much better to keep it to myself.  ESPECIALLY, if it involves an individual that I will not be able to have a “meeting of the minds with.” For example the friend from brunch does act like her life is perfect, but has had many negative things happen to her that she chooses to pretend never did.  At times it seems like she speaks as though she has it all figured out.

This can make me uncomfortable at times when she (and others) do this.  Because I am a constantly growing, evolving human plant, I sometimes may feel “well wait this person seems to be cool, calm, collected ,and content.” So why am I uneasy and looking and diving.  Well – because I am growing, moving upwards and onwards – and she, is not.  She is stagnant, rooted in the soil, not growing, not becoming a strong sequoia, just a plain old little plant in the forest.

Well that’s not me.

Now that I know that, let me process that – let me have CONFIDENCE and conviction.  I do not have to dull my shine to stoop down to their level.  If they are a mere green plant with a limb, and I am a strong redwood sequoia, I may not have as much to relate to them after a while -so be it.  I will not hinder my growth to be more “relatable.”

This is hard, and often an isolating feeling.  however as they say “it’s lonely at the top.” by no means I am at the “top.” by no means am I superior, elite, or better.  however, I am different.  I am going on a journey that most would not even dare think of, so no, I am nothing like them.

Luckily though, my husband is just like ME.  We strive for excellence and we strive for growth, we don’t settle for stagnation.

We have each other, no need to stoop down and look elsewhere for validation!