Anita,

Yes! My surgery has been successful, I have a second one coming up in a month and a few more months of recovery before I move back. A little background: I am a dancer that was living in LA, we both were, and then I got a bad foot injury and came home to take care of it properly because an injury like that could’ve ruined my career. So he is in LA and I am home in Florida.

As for the fights leading up to the breakup. about a week before the breakup, I was becoming unhappier and unhappier. I was meeting new people and creating new relationships with them and those relationships were fulfilling the things I needed my ex to fulfill, the banter, the jokes, the general interest in each others lives. I started to pull away from him and I told him that I needed space. I didn’t speak to him for a couple days, to evaluate what I wanted and see what it would be like without him. When I finally contacted him again he was understandably upset with me and was hurt that I didn’t talk to him. But as the fight went on I don’t think we were really hearing what each other was saying, our feelings and reasonings got lost in anger and hurt and he demanded I apologize to him but I felt that wouldn’t have been genuine so I just couldn’t. He gave me an ultimatum and I was so upset that thats where it ended.

I was the one who ended it, I was the one who needed the space, which I think devastated him. I miss him so much but I don’t want to go crawling back only just to hurt him all over again. Ive been evaluating whether I made the right choice or not, I miss my friend but I want to let him heal.