Dear GC:

Therapy, if the therapist is capable, honest, hard working, is the place to start the healing process. Understanding early relationships will be very helpful. So will having a good relationship with the therapist himself or herself. Healing is possible only in the context of a healthy relationship. In therapy, it is a context of a (professional) relationship.

You wrote that you expected your boyfriend to make you feel better. I know this expectation in my own life, in the past. What a frustrating prospect it was! And if the other person is decent and trying, a great frustration on his part as well. Because it is an impossible one.

I think you “can work through it!” if you aim at it and persist.

anita