Hi Rose,

I think you are thinking about it so much, expecting fear, thereby “psyching” yourself out. Maybe instead of thinking “I am going out a a date” try to think, “I am going out to meet a new friend” that will take the pressure off. I think if we haven’t dated in a while, it’s easy to fall in a trap of negative thinking, and letting self-defeating thoughts take over. We re-play old tapes in our mind. For example “will he like me” “ask me on a 2nd date?”. ” Do I look okay?” “What should I wear”..and so on. Instead, look at it as meeting a new friend, and ask yourself instead of you will like them, if they are compatible with you, and so on..kind of “turning things around”. Keep posting with any thoughts..