Dear Jen:

The advantage that a future relationship will have for you is that the man in that future relationship will not be one who has already broken up with you. Get to know the next man in your life over time before you get physically intimate, so that you don’t form a very strong emotional attachment to him before you get to know him. It is wise to be cautious this way.

When you figure you made a good choice in a man, that he is trustworthy, then deal with possible anxiety on your part in the context of the relationship.

anita