Dear Vaibhav:

She promised you “to not go to parties”- and she did go to a party again. She cancelled her promise at the time by saying that if she did go to a party, she will not have more than one drink. It reads to me that she is very excited about living in London, excited about going to parties and having fun. Reads to me that she is likely motivated to go to parties, glad to have those opportunities for socializing, drinking and fun.

And it reads to me that this is not a reality you can live with in peace. It is harming your mental health and you “are not able to function well”. You fight with her but unable to take a stand.

How about taking a break, letting her know the relationship is on a break, a time-out (no decision regarding the future of the relationship needs to be made before or during the break)?

You can decide how long the break will be and on what date to talk with her again. During the break you will have time of no contact, time of little pressure, to calm down and let reality sink in.

anita