Dear IpkR09:

As to him, you wrote: “he told me he always felt that she is his responsibility so he wanted to focus on providing her a good life but he said that when we met, he just fell for me”. Reads to me that he is angry at this mother, that he is conflicted: wanting to be free of that responsibility to her but feeling guilty to set himself free. I think that it is this anger and conflict that motivated him to act so callously with you.

As to you, reads to me that you are not “really dense” as in lack of intelligence, but dense with fear. Fear is a very powerful emotion. You were afraid to get hurt, to be left alone by him. Such a fear does not go away easily, if it goes away at all.

For the purpose of keeping a man in a relationship with you, for this very purpose, better choose a man who is not likely to leave, who is not conflicted and troubled like this man, and better be honest and assertive with the man.

I hope you post again with your thoughts and feelings.

anita