Dear Bella:

You wrote: “We shared a great year together & then he was out of work for two years, which he lived rent free & everything else free”- was he living with you rent/ everything free, that is, were you supporting him financially during those two years?

Another question (my purpose asking is to understand your situation better), you wrote that there “was absolutely no discussion of anything before he left”- but you did mention discussions or maybe arguments about his bad credit, about you finding another man who  will love you and respect you, about putting off the plan to buy a home together.

Weren’t those discussions before he left (although not in the same day of his leaving)?

anita