Arisha you’re absolutely right in everything you said. I’m very much aware of the reasons she was the way she was. Everyone has a burden but it’s about how they deal with it.

As Anita pointed out

Bullying you has been your mother’s way to relieve herself from her anger, anger at someone else (maybe her husband, maybe her own parents). (Both actually!) Like any other abuse, the abuser relieves herself from distress by inflicting it on another.

I’m aware my mom didn’t do all this because she’s horrible, but I’m disappointed that she didn’t have “the wits” to see that she’s doing a lot of damage to her child.

And thank you very much for your advice. It is a simple one but that’s why it could work. I agree it’s important to be kind to yourself.