Dear Bella:

I think that sending the ex a birthday card or text is a bad idea and it is you keeping the door open. After the card/ text you will be waiting for a response, this is the door being open.

Your attitude regarding this old friend reads good to me, “nice and slow”, and “looking for a friend & the possibility of a relationship”. Pay attention, listen, ask little questions, share a bit, listen to his response, observe, learn. And have fun.

Looking forward to your next post!

anita