Hi Jace,

It’s really tough, I know. Sorry you’re going through it. I don’t think “cosmic” or “magic” reasons have anything to do with it. His feelings changed, and there may not be a particular reason for it. Sometimes the chemistry just isn’t there anymore. Have you ever had strong feelings for a guy, you really liked him, thought the two of you were a perfect match, and then one day you didn’t anymore?  You couldn’t really say for sure why your feelings changed; they just did, and you could no longer see a future with this person? We all have, haven’t we? It’s part of dating.

Don’t contact him. Don’t do it. He told you he’s not “feeling it” with you and that he doesn’t see a future with you. He also told you there is nothing you can do to change his mind. It’s painful to hear, I know, but you say it haunts you. Why? Neither of you has done anything wrong. You also say his reason for ending the relationship is weird. Why? Reads to me like he’s an honest guy. Close your eyes, take a deep breath, and accept these things he told you. Just accept them. The sooner you do, the sooner you’ll feel better. Keep taking deep breaths. Tell yourself you’ll get through this. It’s okay to feel the pain. It won’t kill you. It will make you stronger.

You don’t want to be with a guy who’s not “feeling it”, do you? Wouldn’t you rather be with a guy who’s madly in love with you? So this guy isn’t the right one. Time to move on from him. Be strong. Force yourself to get out there and do the things you love doing. The right guy is out there. You’ll find him.

Hang in there.

B