Anita,

That has been my suspicion since he ended it. In fact, that was the suspicion whenever I felt like I was being taken for granted during the relationship too. But does that mean he never loved me? I accused him of not loving me when he ended it, but he insisted that what he felt was real and that he did fall deeply in love with me, and continues to be deeply in love with me, but the doubt became too overwhelming to ignore.  He told me he would always love me and that he appreciated everything I did for him and what I meant to him, but he just cannot be in a relationship with me.

Does this also mean that there will be a time when he is ready to be in a committed relationship? Should I make myself open to contact from him if that ever does happen or should I totally shut the door on him and never look back? This doesn’t mean I will be sitting around waiting for him, by the way. I am ready to get moving in my life. I’m tired of being sad.

He also says he wants to be friends with me. I think this has something to do with him still loving me/appreciating my company, and not willing to let me go completely. Should I let that happen?