Dear Ladybug:

It is wonderful that you “showed great appreciation” to your boyfriend for taking great care of you. From what you have shared and my understanding of people otherwise, I know that there is no possibility of success in “talking to their mom to speak some sense” to her. I suppose your boyfriend and his brother don’t know that yet, because they still tried.

Maybe there is counseling available to his sister at the school she is attending, maybe her school counselor/s have information about resources that can help her, maybe even a place for her to live the remaining of her childhood away from her mother.

If his brother also lives with the mother, maybe the same in regard to him.

You wrote that your boyfriend’s “need to become financially stable has increased” as a result. I wonder about his plan to become financially stable. Is his plan to become financially stable a sensible plan, in your estimation, a good plan? I wonder if the plan depends on him winning more fights or is the fight he won recently enough to make it possible for him to become financially stable by being a personal trainer, a model, things you mentioned?

Yesterday, before you posted your most recent post I re-read your posts pages 1-5. I sometimes do that in ongoing threads so to see what I can learn about the beginning posts using what I learned from later posts. Would you like me to process what I learn next and share it with you?

anita