Dear Lisa:

I don’t understand. You read like a reasonable, logical person, your story is consistent, believable and according to it his behavior is weird, bringing about those “huh?”

The interaction with the soldier causes me to speculate (and it is a speculation, a guess), that he is sexually attracted to you, and that he is experiencing a conflict between his rational thinking and his sexual desires, that he is not at peace, that there is a big gap between his identity as a Christian and a Reverend on one hand, and as a man on the other. And then the race seems to have part of this gap, that is, he is attracted to a black woman, probably has added conflict as a result. Sort of he is a rational reverend on one hand and a sexually stimulated man/animal on the other and he doesn’t know how these two things go together.

What do you think?

anita