Thanks Anita – that’s a good perspective. Actually I don’t really mind their dynamic and normally it doesn’t matter to me very much as long as I’m not pulled into it. I think I’m really most annoyed at myself for not anticipating how annoyed I would feel about being made to compromise something important. As a family we’ve done the right thing over and over for my brother and it’s taken for granted that, once again, we have to put everything aside and step up again. I think that’s the dynamic that I’d like to change – that although their world revolves around him, I need to find a way to extract myself from that. What I found interesting reading many of the responses to family relationship issues is that it’s ok to pull back from your extended family when it’s not making you happy and that’s ok.