Dear alexa05:

You wrote about your boyfriend’s real estate agent: “trying to get her nose in everything in the house, like she was trying to win his family over, bring all the things, food, etc… always messaging him” – real estate agents do these things, bring food, trying to win everyone over because they are trying to win that commission by selling the house. I observed such behavior on the part of a real estate agent myself recently, she was a woman, the owner of the house, a man, and I know with certainty that she was not trying to establish an intimate relationship with him. Public Relations is a huge part of a real estate agent’s job.

You wrote about your boyfriend that he looked tense, “like stressed in the party.. nervous, anxious”- that is not evidence that he was considering or carrying on a relationship with the real estate agent. Money is involved in the selling of the house, that could be what stressed him.

His real estate agent wants to be his roommate in the new house? Well, I suppose she is not making much money at her job and can’t afford to buy a home or pay full rent for an apartment. If she is financially desperate, I suppose it is possible (but not necessarily so) that she will be interested in being taken care of by your boyfriend, whom you say makes a good salary. But I see no indication in your share that your boyfriend is interested in her as a girlfriend.

You wrote: “I feel confused, insecure“. Five months ago, April of this year, you wrote regarding the same boyfriend that he was going to stay overnight at his ex wife’s house so to look for property where she lives and look at stuff he still had in her house. You were very concerned that he was going to cheat on you with her.

December of 2016 you were very suspicious regarding a previous boyfriend, that he was carrying on an emotional affair with a married woman living far away. Regarding that boyfriend you wrote: “I always ask myself what’s going to happen with us… we have not talked SERIOUSLY about the future and it makes me feel with: doubts, lots of insecurity, emotional ups and downs, anxiety attacks and so on… sometimes I have even thought of just Breaking up with him and moving on with my life!… I feel STUCK… I AM exhausted mentally and emotionally.. I  don’t know if he is being truthful.. I’m not feeling this relationship anymore, from some time ago, my body, my heart and my soul just wants freedom”

My question to you: do you feel now, with your current boyfriend, similar to what you felt with the previous one (paragraph above)?

anita