Coconut,

I’m a strong believer in communication and have shared my feelings with him, he was a little hurt because he says he believes this can last a lifetime. I agree, objectively, he has all the qualities that would make for a great partner. But there is something that you said that rings true for me as well. I have a hard time letting go of someone that shows interest in me. My previous relationship, I didn’t see him like that at ALL but I kept telling myself I owed it to the both of us to try it out. And then I got way too attached, and it still confuses me because I feel like it would’ve been best if we had remained friends.

Saying “this guy/time is different” feels like a cop-out. I’m just scared I’ll miss out on something good by pushing this aside. We have slowed down communication and aren’t hanging out as frequently and for a few days I was even starting to miss him but then we communicate again and I’m like “nope, tell him you only wanna speak in person, texting isn’t for you.” I kiss him and ask him personal questions and I think it’s because I want to be sure but also I have no idea what I’m doing I just don’t want to hurt him. He says he wants more than anything for me to be safe and happy and that he has no problem with just being friends. But I know he really likes me now and again, I have no idea about anything…

How did you meet your partner you’re with now? Was it ever confusing for you at first? I just want to be with someone good for me and not question it all of the time. But I guess I really am not ready? that feels so ugly to say for some reason.