Dear Pain and Niv, I will say what has worked for me in regards to dealing with past abuse, it might resonate with you, everyone’s different. What I did, and only recently, was to allow all the feelings about the abuse come through and really feel them. At the same time I showed my younger self love and compassion and let him know I was there for him, that I had his back. I realised I had ignored and even locked away my younger self who those things happened to . That part of me felt so alone and abandoned by me. I made peace with him, making sure he knew none of it was his fault and he didn’t deserve to ever be treated in that way. By doing this I was able to start taking the power back I had given to those who abused me in different ways, and to the event itself. I started the process by writing down whatever came out, as I did that I started getting answers, and things about myself and my past started to become more and more clear. I did this all on my own. Then I looked up articles and videos that resonated with what I was doing. Every day though I just wrote and wrote which helped me get clear about my pain. Like I said, this is what worked for me personally. The simplest thing I feel would be to look at who you were at the time of the abuse and show him/her love and compassion, picture yourself hugging your younger self and go from there 🙂