Hi sombrita,

He already knows he doesn’t do well with long distance relationships. Add grad school on top of that? Well, this is better for you two than if you never saw each other and he’s too busy when you do.

For what it’s worth my daughter is a grad student “dating” another grad student long distance. Seeing each other three or four times a year does not a relationship make, in my opinion. But it is hard, and it is her life. The reality stinks, but at least she’s too busy to mind it too much.

What I’m concerned about is your feeling that you are “not enough”. I felt that too. It’s an awful, icky feeling. Listen to me: You ARE enough. You are enough for a man who already has his life together and is ready to be in a solid relationship. This guy isn’t there yet. You are his Next Level in Life.

Best,

Inky