Dear Dee:

Let’s see: he left his job with the purpose of starting a business, then quit the starting a business idea, aimed at data science, got a contract job, quit the contract job idea to study, and has been unemployed for a year total. He told you to save for a wedding but didn’t save a penny himself.

It doesn’t look good. You spent a year hoping, but better not spend a lifetime hoping and waiting, getting disappointed, then getting your hopes up, then disappointed again and in the process have a child or children perhaps, having to support them financially yourself as well as supporting him. It may be time to end the relationship, however sad you will feel doing so.

It occurred to me that his work history before quitting the job a year ago can be helpful toward your decision, his education/ work history during his twenties. Do you have information about that?

anita