Dear John:

“I have this feeling deep in my gut that she still feels that way with me, but she can’t act on it”- if she felt the attachment and longing for you that you feel for her, she would have  acted  on  it long  ago.

Why don’t you feel this way toward your current girlfriend? For the same  reason you didn’t feel this way to other women in your life, including your ex wife. Your current girlfriend didn’t trigger that longing. Your ex girlfriend triggered it: could have been how very happy she appeared  in your company, more excited, more  child like excited and  , joyful in your company than any woman has ever been before, or after her. I think you trusted that excitement to mean that she really, really  loved you.

anita