Dear NeedMeSomeBuddha:

You wrote: “I have anger issues I struggle with. I say things in the moment and regret them later. I’m trying to change myself because I don’t want it to cost me  good people or good relationships”- excellent insight, excellent resolution, I hope you continue.

Unfortunately what you described here is not  one of those “good people or good relationships” situation, and so, I don’t think you ruined anything good. What happened was a beginning, a middle and an ending of a relationship all mixed  up in a pressure cooker and exploding.

Reads that he lied to you (so he  is not “good people”). If he really had to work, he should have  notified you ASAP (so h e is .. not “good people”), he is rude and childish, which wouldn’t have allowed for “a good relationship”-

and so you didn’t ruin anything good, you were at the most one of two people bringing about an ending of a bad relationship quickly enough so to limit the damage a longer  bad relationship would have  brought about.

anita