Dear talah:

“When he is angry he acts cold and replies bluntly toward me”- following the first blunt reply, I wouldn’t  ask him more questions.  I would also communicate with him when he  is  not angry regarding  how the two of you behave when angry, how he expresses it, how  you do and what adjustments either one of you is willing to do. Maybe he can take  time out when angry, take a walk, or maybe the  two of you can agree to not  talk for a while,  take a time  out from each other when angry.

I suppose  you made your choice, you choose your current boyfriend, which means  having no communication whatsoever with your ex boyfriend, correct?

anita