Dear Tristan:

As a matter of fact, my therapist of 2011-2013, his specialty was  CBT and that was   the focus of  our therapy, it was CBT with a heavy touch of Mindfulness. I found my therapist by googling CBT in my area at the time. What  got  me into CBT was a workbook I worked  on, Cognitive Therapy for  Dummies. It got me  going. Maybe  you can look at it yourself as  you wait  for therapy.

As far as messaging  her regarding  her father’s death last  year, at  first  I  thought why not, but then  I re-read a bit from page 1  and  I don’t  think it is a  good idea. I don’t  think it will benefit her and  it is likely to harm you. Let’s say you message her and she  doesn’t respond, that may trigger your feelings of being disrespected by  her (page 1). Better not.

Face the  future, turn your back to the  past, meaning no contact whatsoever with an ex is best. When  you let go of the  old, as you proceed with therapy and healing, you make space for the new, a new, healthy relationship you are  yet to  have in the  future.

anita