Hi Nazar,

Not telling him that she has a boyfriend when she does is a major red flag here.

Why does “I’m not interested” sound better than “I have a boyfriend”? Maybe it does (to her). Maybe she needs this other guy to know that the decision is coming from her. THEN she’ll tell him about you. Maybe if she told him about you right away he wouldn’t take you (or her) seriously?

In any case, she cares way too much about what he thinks. OR you two aren’t as serious as you think you are.

Best,

Inky