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InkyHi Sophie,
I agree, he’s 22 and has to (basically) figure out what he’s going to do, where he’s going to live, and how he’s going to support himself without Mom and Dad. This year!
Age 22 (or 23 if a late bloomer) is a huge one, I don’t know how you guys do it. My daughter’s doing Age 22 right now and she’s more grown up than I am. She has to be. I did it and I don’t remember (or could explain) what the heck happened!
He didn’t even need all those flimsy excuses. He could have just said, “Listen. I’m freaking out right now. I have to revamp and start over with everything. Including you. Consider us the starter relationship because I’m not in the space right now to be the boyfriend (fiancé, husband) you deserve.”
Please give him space. And don’t take it personally. I know, it’s hard.
Best,
Inky
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