Brandy,

I don’t think you’re off at all. That may very well be the case. I did make our relationship the centre of my universe. I didn’t mean to, but I just loved spending time with him. But I do remember him asking me from time to time if I had any hobbies of my own. I used to feel pathetic when he said that! I bloody well had lots of friends and family and would be considered a social person but we didn’t see each other a lot so I tried to make time when I could to see him.

Ironically I told him that our relationship might become easier if we lived together because it would give me the opportunity to get involved in things I had pushed aside, with the knowledge that even if we were busy separately all day or evening, we’d wake up in the same bed.

I absolutely understand the pressure someone would feel if they believe they hold the key to your happiness. I understood this the first time we split and when we reunited I strived to be the fun, easy going woman he fell for originally. But my feelings kept growing and I kept wanting to move forward with him so you can only hold them at bay so long.

I will fully accept any contribution I made to the relationship not working out, but there are definitely issues on his part too. But he is not aware of them, so that’s the end of that.

I guess people at work would say I’m competent and to be honest, I have a boss who is covered a lot by things I take care of, but no-one is indispensable so I just try to keep a good worth ethic and keep my head down. In work, I’m not like in personal life, I would be assertive if I needed to be!

As for previous rejections, I don’t know what they felt wasn’t worth it. I don’t have specific things or traits in mind, but the evidence is what it is. They didn’t stick around so I wasn’t worth it for them, whatever the reason may be.

I try to be kind. Kindness is so under rated at times, if more people just thought about being kind a couple of moments a day, how it could change the world, or the world of one more person. But that’s just a side note about me I guess!