Dear Eli:

I am glad  you intend to post again. I would like you and I to communicate on and on and on, definitely for as long as you find it helpful. It so happens that at some  point on, I felt that I like you, and I do like you.

I think that you are in a tough situation that isn’t going to get easier any time soon, but over time and effort and learning, your life can become oh, so much better. It is not a matter of resolving this particular relationship with this man that will bring about that better life. It takes so much more.

But one step at a time,  with a lot of patience, it can be done.

Notice what you  wrote yesterday: “Do you think I am happy for share a man with other lady and always live inside fears that maybe (he) leaves me and back to his family and every thing he told  me were  lies“- before you are able to know for sure if he lies to you, you have to figure out the lies your mother told you.

Because a child automatically believes what her mother says, does not question it. And then, as an adult, as a woman, if you still believe her lies, you are unable to know  for sure, who lies to you and what lies are told. It is when you see your mother as a person, not as a god of sorts, that you are  able to see yourself and others clearly.

When “she message and  said oh I will die you never see me again”- I suspect there is a lie there. How did she say that she will die, from what/ how?

anita