Dear Eli:

There was a strong wind storm where I live, electricity is still not available and so I was not able to use the internet until now, temporarily as the private generator is operating, providing me with electricity (and internet) for a while, for how long, I don’t know.

Yesterday you asked: “please tell me what  to do”- I don’t have the right to have such power in your life, to tell you what to do. No one here has the right to have power over you.

See, for one  thing,  I am not there with you, not able to hold your hand and calm you down when you are upset, to be there with you when you feel sad and lonely. So if I tell you: Eli, you must end that relationship, I will not be there to comfort you when you feel sad or scared.

And I do not  provide you with money, so it is not right for me to tell you to  end a relationship that  provides you with financial support.

I think that what it comes down to is: do you have a better option than this married man in your life?

The man you had a date with, you wrote in your recent post that he is not interested in a second date, so he is not an option, although I wish he could be a decent friend to you, not a boyfriend.

Back  to the question: is there a better option for you-

When we don’t have a better option, we make due with what we have. But what if there  is a better option, maybe it is a hidden option and if you look  for it, you  will find  it.

It will be wise to look for and take advantage of a better  option. Not just a better option  of a man: single, honest, kind, and available to love you the  way you need to be loved, but a better life  option overall. What if you can plan for a better life..?

anita