Dear Bella:

Had over 60 mph winds the other day, incredible, power was out and just got it back, at 2:45 AM or so, after more than two  days and nights (not the longest we’d ever been without power here). I thought we will not have power during  Christmas.

I feel badly about you feeling badly. In your thread from May you wrote: “About 3 months ago I found  out he had been hiding financial information from be about his credit (which is terrible)… the reason I found out about the bad credit is because we were going  to  take out a Home Loan to build a house together”-

– This summer, less than six months after you found out that he has  bad credit, he “purchased a large home on several acres”-

Is there any other option than someone else’s credit being used to purchase his home, maybe his new wife’s credit?

I figure he really wanted to own a house, and it was after  you told him earlier in the year, after finding out about his bad credit, that “we should hold off on the New Home and just enjoy life and not get caught up in the stress  of  a new expensive home since we just getting  our heads above water”, that he left you and quickly got into a relationship that made it possible for him to own a  house.

You kept wondering how a man can move on so quickly to a new relationship after eight years with you. What if the answer is that  simple: he wanted  to own a house.

Is there a way for you, Bella, to grieve  this  dead relationship next, because like you wrote in your recent post, you just found out that you “still had hoped we may have gotten back together… I had this crazy idea he  would   come back and tell me how much he Loved and  missed me”-

-and now that hope is dead just like the relationship with him???

With this hope dead, a new life can begin for you.

anita