Hi Anita,

Sorry for the lack of response on this. I wanted to give myself some time away from the topic so I can let things cool rather than have things simmer in my head. Something I have always tried to do is remove myself from the issue so when I reenter, I have a new, fresher perspective.

After mulling over this with a bit of a clearer perspective, I think I am reacting more with my emotions than with reason. I have always had a type of competitive vibe with my sister (something I feel that most siblings experience). My sister has attempted to date an ex (V) in the past and with that one, I was ok with it. I thought it was weird but did not feel any jealous toward the situation. That never worked (hence “attempted”). My sister had also reached out to another ex of mine (Dan) for a ride home from a party when her ride was intoxicated and she needed a safe ride home. She was not capable of driving herself but she also did not have a vehicle. She did have friends she could have reached out to, she always had our parents (she was under 21 but my parents made it clear it would be safer to have us contact them for a ride than risking our life by driving home or riding with another intoxicated friend, etc.), and she had her own boyfriend who did not go to the party and could have gone with her. Also, this was when I was with the guy and we were in a fight at the time so I did not know until way later. Even more, she would text Dan (during and after our breakup).

When I think over these actions of hers, it makes me feel frustrated. I do not understand why my sister ignores boundaries. I have never done anything like this to her. I always respected that boundary, as anyone should do.

I know that Kyle said they are talking as friends at this moment, so maybe it really isn’t anything. Which is why I said maybe I am being immature. Maybe I am blowing this out of proportion. I do know that Kyle is fighting for that friendship with my sister. I do know that they find each other both attractive and my guy instinct is telling me that something is going on but I cannot say or assume what.

But, I also cannot help but feel sad for my sister. Her recent breakup has definitely scarred her. And I know she has been latching onto many guys as a way to fill that void. She met Kyle, who is a really good and attractive guy. Kyle showed interest in her. And maybe since she knew I was happy with Kyle and still friends with Kyle, he would make a good partner. But these are all assumptions. I have no true idea what is going on. For all I know, my sister doesn’t even like him anymore.

But after I tried to talk things out with her, by waving my white flag, by handing her the olive branch, she snapped that olive branch and told me she wants nothing to do with me. I really have no clue at this point of what is going on between my sister and Kyle. My sister has made it clear that I have treated her like “sh*t” this whole time and is tired of my “crap.” I have no reason at this moment to try to amend things when she is refusing to even try herself.