I wouldn’t enable her mothers questionable financial management, but I would try and support her in whatever way I could and find a solution together. Even if it was just listening to her. During the relationship I fell into the trap of trying to solve her problems, when maybe all I needed to do was listen and be strong for her. Again something I need to talk to her about if given the chance.

Right now I’m feeling very anxious and concerned over the fact my opportunity to fix things might have evaporated, and she won’t meet me for a meal when I have my scan in two weeks time. If she’s starting to focus on a new man, surely she’s going to feel like she shouldn’t see me anymore? She’s already been dishonest with me saying she isn’t doing anything fun until after her exams are finished in February, but she’s back on dating apps again with the clear intention to talk and meet other guys?

Regardless of what happens between us, she can’t live like this and I certainly don’t want that for her. Her brother is 10, so she potentially has another 7-8 years of this before he can stand on his own two feet.