Dear AnxiousAsUsual:

You are welcome. You wrote: “I just want to be desired… I feel like he doesn’t even care”.

Regarding you wanting to be desired, will it/did it satisfy you if he attends to you sexually in ways that don’t require an erection-was that discussed, suggested or offered (please don’t give me sexual details, I don’t need or want details)?

And what specific behaviors or lack of behaviors on his part indicate to you that he doesn’t care?

anita