Dear Anita,

I agree.  I will create this calm environment to approach the scenario with my sister.  That is an excellent idea given that such a scenario requires calm energy as a prerequisite.

N is no where close to my sister, in a way shes a nobody, but a somebody as she was involved in my wedding, and was a “good” friend back in my 20s.  Someone who brought glitter like you said.  but no substance.

I have removed many such people in my life over the last year – the last year since speaking to my parents.  Removing insignificant people is of course easier.

As an aside.

Do you believe that anxiety creates constant “seeking” as a response to fear.  Do you think in a way, it is a way of fleeting, or always having a survival instinct, thus always seeking something out.  Unable to sit with what just is – seeking elsewhere, or more.