Dear Anita,

When selfless you get angry and want to retaliate by being selfish.

yes! it is going from one extreme to another, being ravenous and then over eating as a result – now uncomfortably overstuffed.  all or nothing, neither feeling/state is healthy or useful/good.

I prefer the term self-focused.  and thank you for using the term sensibly.  I like the term of sensibility, it makes SENSE.  That is just it, coming from a place that makes SENSE.  We have an innate guidance of common sense most of the time, we just over look it.

I used to get caught up in others that are selfish, oh it doesn’t seem stupid for them on the long term, they seem to get away with it.  It doesn’t matter.  For ME and most of us, being selfish or selfless is stupid! AS you say.

To be authentic is to be sensible.

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