Dear MG:

If I understand correctly at this point (and correct me if I don’t), you and this man are co-workers and friends at work for the last seven months. The two of you have not been and are not sexually involved. The nature of the friendship with him has having emotional and intimate chats (“it is not anything about sex. It’s just about all the chats we did and the way we cared for each other”).

Part of the chats you had was you telling him that you love him and him telling you that he loves you even more (“My friend also loves me more than I love him”).

He got married last week but wants to continue this special friendship with you at work. You want to stop having this friendship with him and be strictly co workers, but you are afraid that he will be hurt and not be able to handle himself if you stop the special friendship (“I am just afraid that how he will handle himself once I left”).

How do you think he might handle himself; do you think he will hurt himself if he didn’t have the special friendship with you?

anita