Hello Mark!

Thanks for your reply. I understand that it could be a possibility that he is using me as a safety gf, just a back up for now. As of now his complete attention is towards his ex and it hurts me a lot. I do believe that a break is best for both of us at this point. But that sort of leaves me in a limbo and I feel stuck.

In our last conversation he mentioned, his ex wants him to visit her if they want to work things out. It made me upset, that why is he even encouraging conversations like that with her, if he loves me. He did seem torn about the whole situation of visiting her. Among the only reasons for not visiting was that he would have to shell out a lot of money for this unplanned trip. May be I am expecting things to be black and white, but if we are on break, it should be for him to achieve closure and to move on. If he is entertaining the idea of getting back together with her, then we should break up. Since he is not clear himself, I sometimes feel like I should break up and end everybody’s agony.

There might be even a possibility of his going back and forth with his ex even if he comes back to me. Since he is so confused right now, I don’t know what to believe, whether I should even believe everything coming from him. I have had a serious relationship before, and I understand that the sooner you start the moving on period, the better. That is partly the reason why I want to break up.

I do want to give him a chance, but I am not sure whether it will all be worth it in the end. I want to believe him and do things his way with just a break but since he is so confused about everything (which is so unlike him), I am worried that he might do something like this again. So just as a case of self-preservation, I am thinking of breaking up with him. Please let me know your thoughts.