Dear Robbi1992:

The fact that people have to wait in Spain for legal documents is not an indication of the waiting theme we discussed, the theme in your personal life. People have to wait everywhere for documentations and for employment, waiting for interviews, waiting for the result of interviews, waiting in lines to the post office and in supermarkets. Waiting is a reality for everyone. And I don’t think anyone likes to wait. We simply have to.

“I seem not to really want to find work.. I seem to want to waste time again.. get  comfy… It feels like I just don’t want to work. It seems like I want to just go to the beach, go to bars, meet people but I don’t want to work  on my life”-

You are anxious, scared. Of course you want to “get comfy”. Every person on the face of the earth, when anxious and uncomfortable wants to feel comfortable instead. It is not a matter  of having a bad character, it is a matter of not wanting to feel bad.

You have to stop judging yourself negatively. Got to understand you are very much human. Be patient with yourself, gentle. Tell yourself: I am afraid, so I am not going to talk harshly to myself. I need to relax, so I will go to the beach. It is okay.

Make a small list every morning of what you need to do that day, something or a few things practical, so to promote your future employment in Spain. And plan what to do so to relax and feel good this very day. Plan on both.

You need a good friend to be with you every day, especially when you feel scared. Be that friend, be friendly to yourself, do your best in this regard. Will you?

anita