Dear Anita,

Excellent advice.

I will brainstorm.

As an additional note, I want to re-write.

No benefit in accommodating her delusions, her distorted thinking

Better stick to correct thinking, that which fits reality

 Have your loyalty be to reality, keep your focus on it.

This goes with her especially, but anything in life.  Yes, there is absolutely no benefit in accommodating delusional distorted people/thinking.  All it brings is suffering.  Best to stay away (when possible) best to protect my sphere, best to protect my energy so that I can focus on reality. Stick to reality.

I notice I was having very little trouble doing this recently – seeing reality.  Seeing people for who they are, N, the bossy lady at work – not internalizing as my fault or something I can do or change.

I will continue at this.

There is no help in enabling dysfunction.