Hi CuriousKnowledgeSeeker,

I think also think you are doing the right thing by not inviting your SIL over to your house, and thank goodness your husband agrees that this is the best way to go!

Like Anita says, it’s bad for you and the baby and the whole atmosphere of the house if she comes over and disrupts everyone.

It’s also very bad for you, at this late stage of your pregnancy, to be dwelling on things like this.

This has happened to me over the past few years as well.  I have spent many sleepless nights trying to get things straight in my mind concerning family issues. You do tend to over-dwell on the issues, and try to come up with answers to problems. Remember no-one can fix everything for everyone else. You can’t fix your SIL, so you have done, quite rightly, the next best thing, which is to fix the situation so that the same thing doesn’t happen again.

It’s not you causing these issues. It’s your SIL. Relax, you have come up with an arrangement that you think will work out best for everyone now. Whether this happens or not is in the future, and no-one can control the future, or know how things are going to turn out, as the future hasn’t happened yet.